Why Women Kill and Rage
The moral case for a more temperate approach to fixing problems.
Anger is a part of life.
There's no one who doesn't feel angry at some point in their life. It has so many frustrating, contradictory, terrible things for anyone not to feel angry eventually. Being able to deal with those types of feelings is central to how to function in society. If you don't, it tends to end badly for the person who has the anger and whoever or whatever the anger is directed at. Destructive behaviour is usually what follows. At least if you can't deal with it properly.
What does a good way to process anger look like then? Should you avoid situations that might make you angry? Talk them out in an honest and open manner? There are many different ways to go about it. The problem is that just because you want to deal with it properly, doesn't mean the object of your anger is willing or able to do what you need in order to process anger. They might not give you what you want. And that can end up creating more anger in you or other people.
Which is only going to perpetuate the destructive behaviour you're trying to process. The more you circulate the anger, the worse it gets and the more willing you might be to do things like hurt others in order to release those feelings rather than letting it fester. When you get to that point, there may not be any way to avoid things beyond violence. But is that actually what will make things better?
Why Women Kill is fundamentally about what happens when you don't properly deal with that type of anger. It's about the barriers that exist, either self imposed or by other people, which force people to avoid really dealing with your underlying problems. How people prefer to focus on other things and how it destroys relationships. In many ways, it's about the secrets that are created in that avoidance and what happens when they are revealed.
More than anything, a lack of honesty can create frustration and anger.
Understanding how it comes about and why we need better ways to come to terms with our problems is so important. Anger never leads anywhere good. Rage is even worse. It blinds you to what might be a better solution. Makes you believe that death is the only answer. Either your death or the death of someone else.
But while death is in some ways the only option when you're taking on a terrible people or when things get too much, you can't always rely on that as a solution. People have to find a better way to deal with each other. Until we do, we're only going to see more and more destruction.
Seeing the process of going from frustration to anger to rage and then finally and ultimately death, can help us see why you need to find a better way.
Why Women Kill is a great example of what makes people go down a destructive path. Make sure to check it out on Paramount Plus where available and Amazon elsewhere as soon as you can.
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Thanks for the callout, and I will definitely be checking out this show!